Mom in Question – Meenakshi

MeenakshiName: Meenakshi

Profession: Technical Reporting Specialist at a University

Kid: Rishi & #2(on the way)

Born and Brought up: Vizag, India

Now living in: Memphis, TN

What did you find most interesting about the US when you moved here?

Driving to work and driving itself (no 4 gear shift) is a breeze; the fact you know exactly where your form is in the process of getting approved/dismissed-everything has a system is awesome; customer service in the US (in general) is great-nobody gives you dirty stares if you ask for help in a store; If you don’t like something after you buy it, you can RETURN it for a full refund-I love it!!; littering is taken seriously

Do you study/ work here? If so, how do you find the school/ office environment different from India?

I did my Masters at the University of Memphis. In school, the emphasis was more on creative thinking than how much you can memorize. I was learning and working with people from all over the world. It was a great experience. I liked it. At work, I could express my opinion and get heard, irrespective of my race, color or nationality which was liberating.

What surprised you about your birth experience here? 

The whole process was so smooth. Though I haven’t had a birth experience in India to compare with but I can’t imagine if everything would have been as pre-planned as it was here.

Do you think being a mom changed you as a person? If so, what would you say are the changes?

It definitely changed me a lot. It got my priorities straight and gave me a purpose. It helped me to “stop and smell the roses” and that life is not all about your job. I think being a mom was the best decision of my life. Made me less judgmental of people with kids. I am more confident now.

Is your second pregnancy different from your first? Do you feel more prepared or less, given that you have another son?

My 2nd pregnancy seems to have flown by. Prepared? I don’t know if I am fully prepared, but I definitely know what NOT to do.

What makes life interesting as a multicultural mom?

On the positive side, it’s great to see him learn a new culture. As a multicultural mom, I feel have a huge responsibility towards him to make sure he know to speak/understand one of the Indian languages and know some of our Indian festivals, like Diwali, Holi,Duga puja, Ugadi,Vinayak Chaturthi. As he grows older, just taking him to the temple and the associations’ functions wouldn’t be enough. I would have to make an effort to create that environment at home for him to understand.

What challenges do you face as a mom in the US? 

Other than the  food, language,culture,celebrating our Indian festivals.

What are some of the positives?

I am more Indian now than I was ever in India. Always trying to be conscious of which language I speak with my son in. Always trying to encourage him to eat Indian food.

What do you miss most about India ?

family, friends and “kaajer lok”(household help).

Three things you would change about the world?

The only way to change the world is to start with changing myself. Do to others what I would want others to be done to me. Have a better attitude towards things that I don’t like doing.

Fun activities you do for yourself?

I dance. I used to learn Bharatnatyam and Kuchipudi in India from my mother, but never got around to completing it.

What are some of your favorite TV shows?

 Desperate Housewives

Fun activities you do with your kid (s)?

Painting, puzzles, reading books, tickling, cuddling.

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5 Comments

  1. Khushi

    Meenakshi, welcome. Its really nice learning more about you. I think being a mom made me more confident too. Its amazing, isnt it? Also, I do try to be more Indian. And like Desperate housewives! I also watch Brothers and Sisters. Who is your favorite housewife? I used to like Lynett, but now I like most of them.

  2. sarmila

    nice reading the interview

  3. Shahana Dattagupta

    “The only way to change the world is to start with changing myself.” Fantastic insight, Meenakshi, Bravo!

  4. Meenakshi

    Thank you all for the warm welcome! I love this website and applaud the founders for doing such a great job with the topics and the website! We-multicultural moms- needed a website like this.

    Khushi-I love all the housewives, too–it’s like they have written all the characters where we can relate to each one of them in some way or other.

  5. Khushi

    Meenakshi, thank you for your very sweet comment. It is encouraging to read that. I hope we can continue to discuss topics important to multicultural moms.

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