Mom in Question – Mona

mom in questionName:  Nurani Mohana

Profession: Apart from being a proud homemaker, working for a non-profit organization and managing their activities

Kids: 2 sons,  11yrs and 7yrs

Born and brought up:  Kolkata, India

What seemed most interesting about life in US when you came here?

An interesting aspect of life in US is the way Indians living here bond with each other. There seems to be a strong social and  mental connection amongst us. We are all out there to fall on each other in times of need…all this stemming from the fact that we are away from our near & dear ones in our homeland. Also as parents we try to teach the good aspects of “Indian culture” to our kids as compared to people in India who seem to be deviating more and more from the path.

What strike you most from the community service that you do?

 It has taught me to be more compassionate. It strikes me to think that it requires great dedication and self-belief to do community service. Meeting people from different walks of life has been inspiring for me.

What did you find most different between your birthing experience here and in India? 

The attitude of doctors and nurses towards the patient is quite different here in a positive way. They are more open towards discussing matters with us so that we are well informed. Also, the Father in most of the cases here is more involved in different stages of a growing child right from birth.

Do you think that being a mommy changed you as a person?  If yes, what would you say are the changes? 

From a carefree person to a responsible adult is a big change. Being a mommy has taught me more patience, the ability to listen with an open mind and actually made me a bit creative. On the other hand it has made me an anxious person and left me with less time to pursue my hobbies. 

What festivals do you celebrate as a multi cultural mom?

Navratri, Deewali, Pongal, Ganesh Puja, Saraswati Puja, Shivratri, Janmashtami are some of them. I try to involve the kids in everything that I do whether they understand or not. 

How has learning to drive late in life affected you?

Well, being an earnest walker all my life, I have never really let the fact affect me that I learned ‘driving’ late. I  rode public buses all my growing years in India and that has taught me to be self-dependent. Even after learning to drive here in US, I sometimes take the public transport or prefer walking to catch some fresh air.

What makes life interesting when raising multicultural kids?

It is a challenge to raise our kids here in the multicultural mayhem. Kudos to all the moms and dads out there. As parents we feel a lot more pressure in balancing the different cultures. I think it takes a lot in giving our kids a good mix of both the worlds but at the end of the day, not forgetting where your roots are is the biggest thing.

What do you miss most about India?

For the most part I miss my family more than anything else. Besides, I miss the extended chat sessions with our neighbours  and the fact that kids in India don’t need an ‘appointment’ to play with each other.

Fun activities you do with your sons:

 Playing ‘hide and seek’ is my most favourite and even now they enjoy. Nowadays dancing to all the latest Bollywood numbers and acting out like in the reality shows on TV has become a hit with them.

Fun activities you do for yourself?    Watching movies/reality shows on TV, trying out henna designs on my hand, recently blogging on the web.

 

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3 Comments

  1. Khushi

    Mona, cool observations on the difference in birthing experience and the observations on life in the US. Looking forward to hearing more from you.

  2. Indrani

    Mona, I liked your perspective of teaching Indian stuff to kids living outside India versus the parents attitude in India. Your observation is very true. Welcome to this wonderful community of creativity.

  3. Mona

    Thanks for your response. Looking forward to air my views more often…

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