The most extreme of makeovers
Sometime back I met a guy who had not seen me for four years. Wow, he said, you are totally different now. I asked him how and he avoided a direct answer. But it got me thinking – of all the makeovers I have seen, on TV or at the local Macy’s cosmetic counter, the most extreme makeover is the one of becoming a mom.
First for a while, instead of having one body, you have two . You slow down, you avoid the microwave, you take various pesky precautions with military ardor. And then you go through labor, and the baby is here and you are confronted with a new confidence that your body could actually grow another and bring him or her to life and a new sinking feeling that all that you have learnt so far may not stand you in good, mediun or even weak stead as a new mom. And then as days, diapers, burps and cuddles pass by, you gain a new confidence and realize suddenly that you are a new person – a mom.
Instead of the sleek purse you sung over your shoulder, you now carry a diaper bag, your clothes are no longer the ironed business casual you prefered but shorts and t-shirts and soft dresses that hide your waist. You dont have time for the post natal yoga cd you bought and you learn to do unexpected things like nursing in public or taking your baby into a public bathroom with you.
And the doctors and experts. Well, what would a makeover be without them? The latest child care book. What to expect when the what to expect series ends. The pediatrician who orders strange tests ‘just to be sure’. The gynaecologist who is now more intimate with your body that maybe even you.
And then they grow a bit bigger and all these fade away. The diaper bags, the diapers, the sippy cups, the clinginess. But your makeover is complete. You can still find the same person you were but you are no longer her. Your body has recovered from the ravages of labor, but its a body that bore a child and nursed her or him- and it suddenly deserves that respect. Your eyes now have the same kohl and mascara but they are alert after your child. Your clothes hang well, your car is clean again, but stamps of another small, much beloved soul is everywhere – from the hidden happy meal toy in your front seat to the juice box stain on your white skirt.
You dont walk out of this makeovers to cheers from your friends and families, perhaps, but you should walk out to cheers from you.
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