Comments on: To be or not to be … a mother

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By: Indrani

Indrani — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:27:24 +0000

Dear Tana, A beautiful post. I would say a mother is a mother. The child is is yours- natural or adopted. Anonymous could be right with regard to sense of gratitude but don’t we all have a sense of gratitude, not obligation, deep down for our parents, especially if we realise that we were difficult and our parents tackled us with much love and patience.

By: Tana

Tana — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 18:47:23 +0000

Thank you for sharing this Khushi, and please thank your friend from me too. As a writer (who shares her writing with others), the biggest gift one can get in return for one’s vulnerability is the knowledge that one’s writing touched another person in some way.

By: Khushi

Khushi — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 17:27:26 +0000

My friend told me that she really liked your last paragraph. She’s just never comments

By: Asha

Asha — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 18:11:05 +0000

Good writing, Tana. You will knwo when the time is right.

By: Khushi

Khushi — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:36:39 +0000

I saw the bending. LOL. But bending determines the speed. Based on my experience with bows and arrows (made from sticks from the broom ma used to use for brushing our bed) the direction is different from bending.

By: Tana

Tana — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:13:44 +0000

Khushi, “Let your bending be in the archer’s hand…”

By: Tana

Tana — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:06:30 +0000

Thanks, Khushi! And thank you Anonymous, for your lovely, unique perspective. I cherish it.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:56:38 +0000

Tana, go for it. But first decide whether you want to adopt or be pregnant yourself. The two are very different and the bond between the birth mother and the child is one that can never go away. I was adopted my self and have had most wonderful adoptive parents but when I think of them, gratitude comes to mind along with love. I dont think I would have been grateful if I had been with my birth mother. The poem is beatutiful. All in all a great post.

By: Khushi

Khushi — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 14:04:21 +0000

Beautiful piece. I loved it. All the best on your journey, whether you want to adopt or bear a child. I had read the poem and long back, and had forgotten it entirely. It brings back memories of reading the poem in my moms book long time ago. I do think though that parents are the ones that give the values the child carries with him or her. Its the direction of the bow. You have to let go off them, but you also set their direction.